We can all learn a lesson from the holy men of George Lucas' universe. It is better to focus on the positive and keep your mind oriented towards positive things, lest the dark side of one's psyche take over, thus transforming the world into somthing negative, because one's perception of the world is simply run through the filter of one's own mental state before being interpreted as positive or negative.
To that end, despite the many negative things I could list here about my life and how my path through it is going, in order to facilitate having a positive outlook on the world, which is more pleasant than a negative one in my experience, it makes sense to list those things which have gone according to plan, or have simply been positive in general, planned or not.
Far from what I have always considered trite, the listing of such things that I am thankful for serves a purpose of orienting my mind to positive things, such as was always the purpose of this activity at this time of year, just as New Year's Resolutions have always served the purpose of self-improvement, yet I have constantly and (partly) subconsciously rebelled against such holiday conventions for many years, refusing to take part because I generally hold a distaste for the "Holiday Season" and what it has become. The fertile ground was laid for this feeling when I was a kid and the holidays usually meant fighting amongst family, or between me and my mom or sister. It just seemed that every year, this stupid thing called "the holidays" came around to ruin the quiet calm of my life.
Since becoming an adult, I have endeavoured to remove this stigma from myself and enjoy the season. Thus this post has been another step in my effort to regain that which was lost. If I can willingly participate in a holiday tradition, yet on my own terms and not because I was coerced into it, then I will be one step further on my path to being able to instill enjoyment of the holidays in my children yet to come, without being a hypocrite. I wish this to become a reality not just for myself and my own sense of intellectual integrity, but also for the sake of my wife who would otherwise see me faking my way though it and enjoy it that much less herself, and for the sake of my children who deserve to have the chance to enjoy fun things like the holidays without having their father mess it up for them.
So, long story short...here is what I'm thankful for:
6. That I have a job. It may suck, and I don't always get enough hours, and it drains my life away most of the time, but it's a job. Including the much more primary efforts of my wife on the job front, it has been enough to keep our finances from drowning. Barely.
5. That I have a home. It is nice to have a place that I can always go back to. In the first 25 years of my life I moved a total of 33 times. I am glad that it is likely that I will never have to do that again unless Joslyn and I choose to.
4. That I have loving and awesome friends. I know what it's like to not have anyone to go to, because no one respects you or enjoys your company. That makes it all the better when the opposite is true and you have people that seek you out to spend time with you and miss you when you're gone.
3. That I have family who care about me and want to hear from me, and see me whenever possible. They are my only connection to my past, as the ones who have been involved with me literally from the beginning. I love them all and want them to know that.
2. That I have an excellent marriage to a person who is my equal in all respects. This equality is one of the most important things. I know enough of myself to know that I need to be challenged or I will stagnate. She does this. Sometimes a little too much. I tell people that have just met her (or us) that "She keeps my life interesting." =)
1. That I have a connection and awareness of my own personal spirituality. I use the gifts that I was given in my life to explore the deeper meanings of my faith, establish my own beliefs and defend them, and be constantly thankful for the opportunity. It has brought my life completion, by rounding out the circle and fulfilling the innately human desire to reach upward to things which are greater than ourselves.
When I look at this list written down as it is, I can only wonder at myself about why I was so depressed in the first place. Very few people can boast such a list, and so I should be humbled simply by the richness of what has come to me in my life. Nearly all of the things on this list are gifts, and I should never take for granted or forget that the best things that come to people in life are not under their own power, but outside of it.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone.